Are you really meditating?!

Hey, guys, it’s David Fox, psychologist and author of the books Change Your Life! Hope and Healing for Anxiety and Depression and Blackbelt Mind. Today, I thought I would talk briefly about meditation.

There are many types of meditation, however, I find that a lot of people say they have tried meditation. And when I asked my clients who struggle with stress or anxiety or even depression – have you tried meditation? A lot of people would say, yeah, I can’t do it. My mind’s too busy and when I try sit down and relax and let go it just doesn’t work.

The thing is, meditation is the same as any other skill that you need to train yourself to do. Whether it’s training your body or training your mind, it’s the same thing.

You need to practice and you need to get past the hurdles.

And when you do, you will get to this amazing sense of peacefulness and all it takes is about fifteen to twenty minutes of your time. 

I have a three-step process that I teach people, which is from a chapter in my book, Black Belt Mind. I want you to have that same experience where you feel like everything’s gone quiet.

When you get it right you feel the stress has left your body and you actually feel energized – like you’ve hit the reset button and you just feel better! You feel you can kind get on with the day and do what you need to do now. And, you’re less agitated. You’re not snapping at the people you love and you feel more motivated and ready to take things on.

And it really does require the type of meditation that I have in that chapter which I have made available for you as a download through the link below.

It is different to guided meditation and it is different to any of the meditation apps where you’re listening to someone guide you through the process.  Any time your mind is still being stimulated, whether it’s by meditative music or guided imagery, your brain is still active. It is still firing off all the neurons.

With real meditation we need to get to that place where there is no stimulation and there is very little thought coming into your mind. And you can only do that in silence. And you can also only do that sitting up. You need to be sitting upright on a comfortable chair or you need to be sitting up on your bed with your legs crossed. The reason for this is if you lie down, the reticular system of your brain says it’s sleep time and you’ll just go to sleep and you won’t get that full feeling and sensation and experience of what it’s like to be consciously relaxed and still be aware of how you feel as you come out of the meditation.

Everyone meditates at different times of the day. It doesn’t really matter when you do it. I tend to do it when I feel my stress levels are really high and it’s been a lifesaver over the years. Other than exercise, counselling and CBT, I would say meditation is one of the very top tools that you need in your toolkit to really help you improve your life and get through some of the tough stuff that’s happening right now out there.

There’s never been a better time to learn and practice meditation! It doesn’t cost you anything. It’s completely natural and you get that same result of dropping down your stress level that you would from other, more potentially harmful, substances.  

I recommend that before you do any technique you write down a number from 1-10 on how stressed, anxious or depressed you are and then go and do the technique and come back and write down another number. If you’ve dropped by even one notch by doing a meditation or going for a walk or doing CBT and your stress level, anxiety, or depression has lessened – then it shows you that the technique works and then you’re more likely to use it again in the future.

I highly recommend that you look into whether you have really been meditating what the real experience of meditation is where you can get yourself to that place where everything goes quiet in your mind. I explain this process and some of the research behind meditation in Meditation is Mandatory which again is a chapter from my book Black Belt Mind. So, if you’re interested in the chapter, you can click the link and I’m sure you will get a lot out of it. I would love to hear your feedback. Stay strong and never give up!


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David Fox is an author, speaker and registered psychologist with a masters degree in psychology. He believes that overcoming issues like anxiety and depression are best tackled on multiple fronts such as exercise, supplements, working with your thoughts and beliefs, watching your diet and talking to someone who can provide empathy and support while you figure things out. His goal is teach people individually and within organisations in how to help themselves thrive. In addition, David supports patients who would like to eventually reduce or potentially stop taking anti-depressant medication if they are finding major negative side effects from remaining on the medications and looking for alternative routes to a better quality of life. This is not for everyone, and yes some people may need to remain on some amount of medication – especially those with bi-polar disorder or schizophrenia. However, for those whose issues began as anxiety and/or depression, there may certainly be another way to healing other than medication. David is the author of the book Change your Life! Hope and Healing for Anxiety and Depression.

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