My value is not defined by the money in my bank

It is probably clear – now more than ever to many people – that money and wealth are a fluid state of affairs. This is the case for every individual, every company, every institution and every government. 


As Dr.Wayne Dyer used to say: “If who you are is what you have, then who are you when you don’t have?” and “If who you are is what you do, then what happens when you can’t do?”


In the current environment, thousands of people have had to face that hard truth. However, as we all know from time to time, changes to what we do and how much we have or don’t have are like the tides that come and go. And the worst thing we can do is to desperately hold onto things that are by their very nature changeable. 


So what is our “worth” to be based upon? How shall we define our sense of self-esteem and learn to feel good about ourselves regardless of what goes before us?

In my opinion, there is only one way and that is to stop telling the story about how wrong we are, how inappropriate to life we are, how unlucky we are, how lost we are, how confused we are, how hopeless we are – whether it is in love or life in general. It never stands up to the light of truth. And even if it feels true now, it usually doesn’t last if we just keep going and do our best to have an open and compassionate mind.


It may be time to trust that all is working out as it should and the words we speak silently to ourselves in our own minds and the language we use should be crafted with care. We all become like that which we focus our minds on and what we continue to tell ourselves really does matter. 


So begin today by affirming:


“If I help even one person today – with a smile, a hug, a thoughtful gesture – I am invaluable”.

“I am always valuable and I don’t have to prove my value to anyone”

“I am often aware that things have a way of working out for me”.

“There are so many things I worried about in the past that either never happened or I found a way to get through them”

“I am stronger and much more resilient than I think I am”.


Don’t worry if you can’t always get to a better feeling place sometimes. Your emotions have ebbs and flows and when you are ebbing – just let it be…you will flow again soon so keep your head up and never give up. 

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David Fox is an author, speaker and registered psychologist with a masters degree in psychology. He believes that overcoming issues like anxiety and depression are best tackled on multiple fronts such as exercise, supplements, working with your thoughts and beliefs, watching your diet and talking to someone who can provide empathy and support while you figure things out. His goal is teach people individually and within organisations in how to help themselves thrive. In addition, David supports patients who would like to eventually reduce or potentially stop taking anti-depressant medication if they are finding major negative side effects from remaining on the medications and looking for alternative routes to a better quality of life. This is not for everyone, and yes some people may need to remain on some amount of medication – especially those with bi-polar disorder or schizophrenia. However, for those whose issues began as anxiety and/or depression, there may certainly be another way to healing other than medication. David is the author of the book Change your Life! Hope and Healing for Anxiety and Depression.

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