Are your roots keeping you down?

A tree will only grow as tall as the health of it’s roots will allow.

A human being will only grow as tall as the health of his or her self-beliefs.

My clients come to counselling with a wide variety of issues but I have seen over the years that if we keep digging below the presenting problems, we will get to the “root” of the issue which is nine times out of ten a problem of negative self beliefs.

Louise Hay – the bestselling author of You Can Heal Your Life and creator of @hayhouse publishing (the largest self-help publishing business in the world today) – would often refer back to this one deep negative belief that so many people struggle with and that is…I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

Underneath the veneer of what appears to be bravado and conceit as well as poor self-esteem and difficulty in experiencing oneself as “appropriate to life”, is this negative and often very much subconscious belief that somehow we are not good enough.

Good enough for what? You name it: To be rich; to have a great relationship with someone we are truly attracted to and in love with; a supportive boss and caring workplace, love, appreciation, empathy and even self-care.

The key to shifting any negative belief is firstly that we need to identify that it exists and I will often be working with a client in counselling and when we get to the part of the core underlying belief being “I am not good enough”, they will either become teary or look at me with bewildered understanding.

It is when we have identified that we have a false and outdated belief that does not match with who we truly are, that we can begin to get rid of the weeds and to allow space for newer, healthier beliefs to take hold.

For sure, it is not an overnight process but the journey towards better self-esteem and therefore better life outcomes and experiences is well worth the effort!

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David Fox is an author, speaker and registered psychologist with a masters degree in psychology. He believes that overcoming issues like anxiety and depression are best tackled on multiple fronts such as exercise, supplements, working with your thoughts and beliefs, watching your diet and talking to someone who can provide empathy and support while you figure things out. His goal is teach people individually and within organisations in how to help themselves thrive. In addition, David supports patients who would like to eventually reduce or potentially stop taking anti-depressant medication if they are finding major negative side effects from remaining on the medications and looking for alternative routes to a better quality of life. This is not for everyone, and yes some people may need to remain on some amount of medication – especially those with bi-polar disorder or schizophrenia. However, for those whose issues began as anxiety and/or depression, there may certainly be another way to healing other than medication. David is the author of the book Change your Life! Hope and Healing for Anxiety and Depression.

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