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My life is perfect. The End.

I would love to say my life is perfect. I would love to say I earn all the money I could ever want or need. I would love to say that I have a wonderful life partner by my side and we complete each other in every possible way. I would love to say that I have plenty of close and wonderful friends who keep me busy all the time and I never have a moment of feeling lonely or alone. I would love to say that I am the perfect father in every way.

But I cannot say those things and an important question for all of us is…what happens when our lives aren’t perfect? How do we react when we focus on and think so much about what is “missing” from our lives? Do we become frustrated? Do we become bitter and resentful? Do we become angry which really only ever masks deep sadness?

Another even more important question to ask is: Could I react differently when I perceive that something is missing from life?

And the answer to that is always yes. We can always react differently because we have the power of choice. I know sometimes it certainly doesn’t feel like it because we do have some automatic emotional hi-jack moments but we can learn to manage those and reduce their severity with practice. We can learn to not add fuel to the fire of the negative emotion and ride it out. More importantly, we can learn to change the words we are using to describe our experience and where we are right now. We can learn to have a different relationship to the thoughts of lack and what is missing.

I am not saying there is anything wrong with having what you want. There is absolutely nothing wrong with achieving your most cherished goals – like finding that wonderful perfect mate or getting that high paying job that changes your finances or having anything you want but what happens when we do finally get everything we ever wanted? Will we just go: “That’s it? I’m done now. Thank you God…I’m happy to leave now?” We all know the answer to that.

As Esther Hicks-Abraham always says – “You can’t get it wrong and you will never get it done!” and that is because as we achieve one thing, we will have expanded and will be looking towards the next thing. So, maybe we need to give ourselves a break when we don’t seem to have anything like the “perfect life” because having the desire for something better or an improved life situation is what leads to all progress, all achievement, all recovery, all learning and so much more of the thrill of life.

So, my wish for you is that your life is never perfect and may you always find the wisdom to know deep down that it is perfectly okay for it to continue to be that way.

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David Fox is an author, speaker and registered psychologist with a masters degree in psychology. He believes that overcoming issues like anxiety and depression are best tackled on multiple fronts such as exercise, supplements, working with your thoughts and beliefs, watching your diet and talking to someone who can provide empathy and support while you figure things out. His goal is teach people individually and within organisations in how to help themselves thrive. In addition, David supports patients who would like to eventually reduce or potentially stop taking anti-depressant medication if they are finding major negative side effects from remaining on the medications and looking for alternative routes to a better quality of life. This is not for everyone, and yes some people may need to remain on some amount of medication – especially those with bi-polar disorder or schizophrenia. However, for those whose issues began as anxiety and/or depression, there may certainly be another way to healing other than medication. David is the author of the book Change your Life! Hope and Healing for Anxiety and Depression.

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