Ego vs Self Respect

I don’t have a lot of ego. Everyone has some level of ego. Even the saints. However it’s not about whether you HAVE an ego or not. We all need the ego. Just like we need our subconscious mind and our conscious mind too. What this game of life is about is learning to tame the ego. Reduce it to becoming only useful to you. If you become a slave to your ego as most people are, you have already lost one of the greatest challenges of being here on earth.

I don’t pretend to be the best person in the world who has no ego. But I CAN tell you that my ego doesn’t rule my thinking or my major life decisions.

You can attack me with words. You can call me names. You can listen to rumours about me and believe them. That’s totally up to you. I don’t respond to these things whether I imagine them or they are real. As the title of a book says, “what you think about me is none of my business”.

However, it is not that there is no bottom or limit to this. I have found that there is indeed a boundary below my ego. If someone crosses that boundary then they may see a different response from me.

That boundary is between my ego and my self respect. If people push hard enough and attack my ego again and again they will eventually cross that boundary into my self respect. And when they do that… they will no longer even exist as a factor in my imagination.

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David Fox is an author, speaker and registered psychologist with a masters degree in psychology. He believes that overcoming issues like anxiety and depression are best tackled on multiple fronts such as exercise, supplements, working with your thoughts and beliefs, watching your diet and talking to someone who can provide empathy and support while you figure things out. His goal is teach people individually and within organisations in how to help themselves thrive. In addition, David supports patients who would like to eventually reduce or potentially stop taking anti-depressant medication if they are finding major negative side effects from remaining on the medications and looking for alternative routes to a better quality of life. This is not for everyone, and yes some people may need to remain on some amount of medication – especially those with bi-polar disorder or schizophrenia. However, for those whose issues began as anxiety and/or depression, there may certainly be another way to healing other than medication. David is the author of the book Change your Life! Hope and Healing for Anxiety and Depression.

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